Shame as adaptation, not defect In environments of abuse, neglect, or chronic emotional misattunement, children face an untenable bind: they must maintain attachment to caregivers while their lived experience is denied or minimized. As Gary Yontef describes, this mystification process teaches the child to mistrust their own perceptions and sensations. The resulting conclusion—“there is something wrong with me”—becomes a stabilizing explanation in an unstable relational field. Over time, shame or
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Shame as adaptation, not defect In environments of abuse, neglect, or chronic emotional misattunement, children face an untenable bind: they must maintain attachment to caregivers while their lived experience is denied or minimized. As Gary Yontef describes, this mystification process teaches the child to mistrust their own perceptions and sensations. The resulting conclusion—“there is something wrong with me”—becomes a stabilizing explanation in an unstable relational field. Over time, shame or
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😳 Avoid shaming your kids by doing these things. 👉🏻 Shame is an extremely powerful feeling that can quickly lead to helplessness and hopelessness. It usually occurs when the person believes there’s a real or perceived flaw that’s permanent. 1. Target the behavior, not the person. 👉🏻 Using generalized language when addressing your child, especially with regard to behavior, can cause them to believe there’s something inherently wrong with them, rather than understanding it’s a specific behavi
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😳 Avoid shaming your kids by doing these things. 👉🏻 Shame is an extremely powerful feeling that can quickly lead to helplessness and hopelessness. It usually occurs when the person believes there’s a real or perceived flaw that’s permanent. 1. Target the behavior, not the person. 👉🏻 Using generalized language when addressing your child, especially with regard to behavior, can cause them to believe there’s something inherently wrong with them, rather than understanding it’s a specific behavi
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